A wedding ceremony in the church is legally valid as marriage. It differs from a civil wedding in that it includes God's blessing of the couple, prayers, hymns and Bible readings. The order of the ceremony can be found on the page Liturgies in other languages.
A church wedding speaks of Christian faith, hope and love. We give thanks for the love that we have met throughout life. We also talk about forgiveness, faithfulness and mercy as well as about love as a gift. The blessing that the couple receives provides strength from God who is greater than us and our love.
If you have held a civil wedding and wish to receive God's blessing on your marriage it is possible to do so in the church. Same-sex partners can receive a blessing, too. However, in this case not all pastors are willing to conduct the blessing and they are not required to.
There are many wedding traditions in Denmark. One of them is that the bride must wear something new, something old, something borrowed and something blue. At the wedding party several traditions remain, some of which are: The groom has his socks cut, the bride and the groom kiss when the guests drum with their cutlery, and the couple dances a wedding waltz at midnight. You do not have to follow any of the traditions to get married in the church.
You can get married in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Denmark if one or both of you are members of the church. When you want to hold a wedding or a church blessing ceremony you need to contact the church where you want to hold the ceremony. You also need to decide about your future family name, find two witnesses and meet the pastor who will conduct the wedding ceremony.
A church wedding includes readings from different books in the Bible on the relationship between a man and a woman: Men and women are created in God's image (Genesis 1:27); in marriage they become one (Matthew 19:4-6). The couple is to carry each other's burden (Galatians 6:2), be patient, forgive and love each other (Colossians 3:13-14).
Listen to a reading of the Song of Solomon in Danish.